Overcoming Fear, Do you know how?

Overcome Fear, Do you know how?
Fear is one of the worst things you can feel.  Fear stops you dead in your tracks. It defeats you.

Do you fear lack, or have fear of failure or maybe you feel the fear of success?  Do you fear loss or the big one, fear of criticism.

This last fear has kept people from living the lives of their choice. Be it staying in a marriage or a relationship you no longer want, or in a job that you hate. But you are afraid that your family or other people will criticism you if you leave. Some children even take on careers or jobs that their parents want for them and do not do what they want to study or work at.

When I was going to school there was a girl who loved acting and she had a great deal of talent. She was in all the schools plays and people really enjoyed watching her. She could dance and sing very well and even play very dramatic roles in a most impressive way. Every summer she acted in the community theater and did very well. She was also a very happy person and fun to be around.

But her parents wanted her to be a lawyer and join her father’s firm. She didn’t have high marks at school and really didn’t want to be a lawyer. She was afraid of the criticism from her parents and therefore applied to colleges to study pre-law. She did get into one and struggled all her years to pass and was not happy. it took her six tries to pass the bar exam and finally started working in her father’s firm. As she had to study so hard she didn’t have any time during all those years she was at college to do any acting, she even had to go to summer school so no more community theater. No more time to sing, dance and act, all of which she was very good at and love to do.

The last time I spoke with her and asked why she didn’t quit law and go back to acting? Her comment was “I can’t do that. After all my parents spent so much money for me to be a lawyer, so I must stay being a lawyer.  She was no longer the fun loving person I knew back at school.  She was having an unhappy life all because she was afraid of criticism from her family.

So how do you get over being afraid?  One way is becoming aware of what you are afraid of. Write it down in a journal. Next write down what would happen in the worst case if what you fear really happened. Then look at and decide if the worst happened could you handle it?  You only have this one life in this body and you want to enjoy the time you have on this earth. So really think if the criticism will really matter 5 years from now.

Lets take “fear of losing” your job. What would happen to you if you lost your job? What would you do? Would you look for another one in the same field? Would you like to have a different kind of job? Write down what you would like to do. Write down what you will do to find another job.  i.e. Write a resume, go to a head hunter or employment office, start an online business or a small business of your own etc. Put all ideas on paper

What you need to do is stop thinking about the “what ifs” and take some action to get ready to find another job.

It might be a good idea to think about action plans in case you do get downsized. Think about what other things do you like to do. And if it means that you might have to take some courses or go to school at night to have more knowledge, than plan on doing that.  You might find in the long run that you decide to quit your job and do something you really like.

Do you know that 90% of what people worry about never happens! That leaves 10% that happens. Some of those worries you have no control over and the other ones write down what actions you can take to overcome them.

Remember to put it all on paper as that way you many times can see some answers, plus you will see things much clearer then if you just think about them.

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