Can you have less stress when dealing with bad news, disappointment or a difficult person?

Can you have less stress when dealing with bad news,
disappointment or a difficult person?

Most of the time you overreact and scream or cry,or become sad or angery. Maybe that is because you have the habit of reacting to life in ways that are negative and short sighted (some times called tunnel vision).

You might sometimes run around asking advice and telling everyone your story of how bad this person treated you or this situation was, or just talking and talking until you can’t do anything right. It is just one drama after another drama, after another drama. Nothing seams to go right in your life.

Yes! You can have less stress when dealing with bad, disappointing or difficult things.

Here are 4 ideas or stratagies to have less stress:

1. Getting the bigger picture.

Example: I read about a story a long time ago of someone sitting on a Subway in a large city. At one of the subway stations a family of 2 children and a father got on and the children began to run up and down the car screeming and bumping into people and being totally unruly. The father just sat looking into outer space, not paying attention to his childern at all. Someone finally said something to the man about his children and how he should take better care of them, as they were distubing the other people on the subway car. The father came back into the present moment and appoligied and said. “Their mother just died about one hour ago at the hospital and I guess they don’t know what to make of it and niether do I. I am sorry I will take care of them now.” Of course the person who was talking to the father immediately realized the pain the family was in and changed his anger for symphthy.
You see once you know the big story or picture you many times you get a different point of view.

2. Learn to breath deeply.

When you get angery, upset, disappointed or sad. Stop for a moment and take a couple of deep breaths. Many times when your emotional you forget to breath and that makes you become more intense. Breathing also gives you time to calm down and not just jump to any reaction. Breathing is the most important thing you can do as without the intake of air you died very fast. Please note that air is invisible and is all around everything including you. Who says you can’t have faith in the invisible?

3. Learn to respond to life gracefully.

What do I mean by that? Well some synonyms are harmoniously, elegantly, easily, skillfully, fairly, imaginatively, flexably, pleasingly and happily. You must learn that everything changes, that is natures way, therefore it is best to bend in the wind so that you don’t break. It takes a bit of practice to become graceful, but it is well worth the effort as it will give you much less stress as well as make you a happier person.

4. Learn to “let go”

I am sure that another driver has cut you off when you have been driving. Did you get all angery and blow your horn, or give him/her the finger? Did you chase after the driver to try and cut him/her off? Or did you just let it go and forget all about it. The best thing to do is just let the driver have his/her accident some place else. Try to have some compassion for the person for his/her big hurry. Try to maintain your own sense of well-being and avoid taking on other people’s problems personally. just let them go!